Flowers in full bloom

Chapter 198 You Need to Know When to Stop

Madam Han sighed softly. Ruyi patted Madam Han's hand and said, "Mom, let's not get involved in this marriage. Just live your life happily."

"By the way, mother, there is one more thing I want to tell you." Ruyi remembered what Mrs. Pei said that all of her mother's dowry was used to support her two uncles, and spoke again.

"Since my grandparents passed away, you have been helping my eldest and second uncles in every way, using your dowry to subsidize them. Every month and every year, you have continuously sent them clothes, food, and money. When they were not hungry, you had already sent them rice. When they were not cold, you had already sent them cotton-padded jackets. When they were not short of money, you sent them money. Your actions seem to be taking care of them, but in fact, you are harming them."

Madam Han was startled and said angrily, "What nonsense are you talking about? How can I harm them? I just feel sorry for them. Your grandparents passed away early, and no one helped them. How can I watch them suffer from poverty and cold?"

"Mother, how could my two uncles have such a hard life? Look at my eldest aunt and second aunt, they both have more jewelry on their heads than you do. My eldest uncle and second uncle are fatter than the other, and they have more concubines than the other. How could they have a hard life?

Think about it, my eldest uncle has been working as a compiler in the Hanlin Academy for nearly 20 years, and he has not moved at all. My second uncle is still a non-staff member of the Hanlin Academy. Why? Because they have no ambition. Because your act of giving them clothes, things and money has made them worry-free and they don't need to struggle on their own.

You have spent a lot of effort to contribute money and effort, but you have wiped out their enterprising spirit. Aren't you harming them? You can use your dowry to subsidize them now, but one day, when your dowry is gone, what will you do? "Mrs. Han's face turned red, and Ruyi looked at it and felt a little uncomfortable.

"Even if you can take care of your uncles for the rest of their lives, what about their children? Who will take care of them? Look, your uncles' children are at the bottom of the class in the clan school. Don't you feel worried?

Although my grandfather cannot be called the emperor's teacher, he also taught him scriptures and history. He was a family full of poetry and books! But look at my two uncles, and then look at my cousins, where is the shadow of my grandfather in them? In just two generations, they have squandered the family business earned by my grandfather, and also lost the tradition of poetry, books and etiquette.

Without your dowry, do you think your two uncles can support themselves and their families by their own ability? Looking at the current situation, it is very difficult.

Look at my cousins ​​again. Cousin Wenbing is one year younger than cousin Jin. However, not only is he at the bottom of the clan school academics, but I heard that he went to a brothel to drink not long ago. When my uncle and aunt found out about it, instead of disciplining him properly, they also tried to cover up the truth and kept it a secret for him, thinking that this would be enough. Can this guy change for the better in the future?

He even had the nerve to ask for Zhenzhu's hand in marriage, and when he failed, he secretly sabotaged Zhenzhu's marriage. If it were me, I would have slapped him in the face a long time ago." Ruyi was a little angry, and Madam Han pursed her lips and said nothing.

"There are Wenchang and Wenxing, who are not at the bottom of the clan school? They are at the bottom of the clan school, do you expect them to take the imperial examination and become officials in the future? They can't take the imperial examination, they can't take the military examination, and they look down on businessmen, what else can they do?

"Mother, don't you really know? How long can your dowry support such a group of people? Without the dowry, what will you use to support them? Do you still want Brother Jin to support this family of parasites?" Ruyi said bluntly, "Even if Brother Jin is willing, I will stop him." Madam Han's face turned a little ugly.

Ruyi continued, "Mom, I am your daughter. I hope you live a happy life, but I still have something to tell you. I don't want you to carry the burden of being a daughter of the Han family all your life, but not only will you not be grateful to the Han family, but they will also blame you for not taking good care of them.

The eldest uncle and aunt plotted Jindi's marriage, and the younger aunt plotted Zhenzhu's marriage. Mother, aren't you angry at all? Have you never thought that their current situation is because you spoiled them? Do you allow them to do this?

Mother, please stop being like this. Although you are still a daughter of the Han family, you are also a wife of the Pei family. You should also consider the position of the Marquis' Mansion when doing things. It's not that I don't allow you to ignore your two uncles at all, but you have to know when to stop.

You should know the principle of "giving a man a fish is not as good as teaching him how to fish". You should let your two uncles and a few cousins ​​stand up on their own, work hard to improve themselves, and make them enterprising and responsible. In this way, even if you don't have dowry to subsidize them in the future, they can still support themselves and their families. Otherwise, you will only harm them, and you will not be able to take care of their descendants.

By the way, the purple gem hairpin on my cousin's head today was given by you, right? I remember that my father bought it from a merchant in Mobei at a high price. It is very rare. At that time, he said that he wanted to give it to Zhenzhu as a headdress, but when did you give it to cousin Qingge? "Ruyi suddenly remembered the purple gem hairpin she saw on Qingge's head today.

Madam Han blushed and whispered, "There are many pearl headdresses, so I don't care about this one. I think this hairpin is very suitable for Qingge, so I gave it to her some time ago."

Ruyi was so angry that she laughed, "Do you think the hairpin that father specially gave to Zhenzhu is suitable for cousin Qingge? If father comes back and sees that the hairpin he bought for his daughter is stuck on your niece's head, do you think he will have any opinion?

Do you have the right to intercept the jewelry that your father gave to Pearl? Do you really want to use up all the love your father has for you? Aren’t you really afraid that your father will be disappointed with you?” Ruyi became more and more discouraged and angry the more she tried to persuade him. “Forget it, I don’t want to say anything. Don’t worry about my dowry shops and farms. I’ll let my grandmother and Agate take care of them for me.”

"Ruyi, do you think I will devour your dowry? You don't even trust me?" Madam Han's voice became a little sharp.

"Mother, how can I trust you? You easily gave all the jewelry that my father gave to my cousin Qingge. I guess you must have given more than just the one I saw today. There must be others, right?